We are all doing the best we can. And for some of us, we pretend we are ok when we are not ... because that's what people expect. You can't blame them, really. If you're pretending you're fine, what else are people to think?
Sometimes, when you're known for being the "strong one" or the "problem-solver" or the ever present "great listener", people have difficulty navigating a relationship with you when you can no longer be all of those things.
Solution: TELL THE TRUTH. Say: "I'm not doing so hot right now", "I can't show up for that" or "I'm going through a lot" ... even "I'm sorry, I don't have the energy for this right now, I really need to take care of myself." And then allow people to decide, knowing the truth of the matter, whether or not they will still be there.
Do yourself, and everyone else, a favor. Stop being a super-hero and spreading your "powers" thin when you need your reserves of strength for yourself.
Being vulnerable is still being STRONG.
Collective Post Credit | Cousin Kirsten Thompson
Let’s Be Made Whole!