We are all doing the best we can. And for some of us, we pretend we are ok when we are not ... because that's what people expect. You can't blame them, really. If you're pretending you're fine, what else are people to think?

Sometimes, when you're known for being the "strong one" or the "problem-solver" or the ever present "great listener", people have difficulty navigating a relationship with you when you can no longer be all of those things.

Solution: TELL THE TRUTH. Say: "I'm not doing so hot right now", "I can't show up for that" or "I'm going through a lot" ... even "I'm sorry, I don't have the energy for this right now, I really need to take care of myself." And then allow people to decide, knowing the truth of the matter, whether or not they will still be there.

Do yourself, and everyone else, a favor. Stop being a super-hero and spreading your "powers" thin when you need to reserve your strength for yourself.

Being vulnerable is still being STRONG.


Collective Post Credit | Cousin Kirsten Thompson

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  • Love the spoons awesome job Congratulations beautiful tea’s

    • Debra Jarvis
  • This is 100% #realtalk. Setting expectations and boundaries to protect your own energy is FREEDOM. Freedom to heal. Freedom to rest. Freedom to invest in yourself. It’s actually one of the best things you can do, because as you become whole, you are able to give more to the world.

    • Julian